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Haley Baumeister's avatar

"In other words, more time together appears to actually be the antidote to fraying relationships — as counterintuitive as that sounds. The key, I think, is building a catalogue of positive experiences that form the foundation of the relationship, so that it’s not just all arguments and passive aggression."

This rings true. When someone has parents, siblings, perhaps other family hours or states away, it is hard to rack up those mundane, positive experiences. At least enough to offset any tension or passive aggressive arguments. Those negative experiences can become a bigger part of one's memory of the relationship, more than it otherwise would be.

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Ivana Greco's avatar

I agree with everything Jim, but we also used to have a norm of not discussing religion or politics with anyone other than closest friends and family and I think that was a good norm and we should bring it back 🤣🤣🤣

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