I had my child at 23 and I regret nothing. I decided to have only one, but my choice was not limited by biology (more circumstance), from a fertility perspective I could have had as many as I wanted. Motherhood has been more life-fufilling than any hedonistic 'find myself' activity I could have done instead. And my child will be an adult by my early 40s, if there are other things I want to try in life with more freedom. But honestly, I enjoy my life exactly as it is. And my grandparents have been able to enjoy having a great grandchild. Don't wait. If you think you want to have children, have children.
My sister waited ten years after marrying to have her first baby, so she was 33 when she had her first baby. Now she has two kids and is 36, and expressed explicitly to me recently that she regrets that they didn’t start having kids younger. It breaks my heart to see it.
I had my child at 23 and I regret nothing. I decided to have only one, but my choice was not limited by biology (more circumstance), from a fertility perspective I could have had as many as I wanted. Motherhood has been more life-fufilling than any hedonistic 'find myself' activity I could have done instead. And my child will be an adult by my early 40s, if there are other things I want to try in life with more freedom. But honestly, I enjoy my life exactly as it is. And my grandparents have been able to enjoy having a great grandchild. Don't wait. If you think you want to have children, have children.
My sister waited ten years after marrying to have her first baby, so she was 33 when she had her first baby. Now she has two kids and is 36, and expressed explicitly to me recently that she regrets that they didn’t start having kids younger. It breaks my heart to see it.
That comment from the NYT article you included is horrible! Good grief.