I'd be curious to see the breakdown of finance merging as it relates to religious affiliation (or lack thereof). It was a no-brainer for my husband and I. Even when finances are technically merged on paper, though, I've heard of instances where couples parse out things like giving/tithing/saving based on their own income...and not the household income. Which baffles me, and seems to defeat the overarching purpose, but this is becoming a tangent.....!
Surely the same people who are anti-merging finances in marriage are the same ones who would never consider a full-time-stay-at-home parent. Because in that case, you *have* to think of money as Ours!
And yeah, I think the point about stay at home parenting is a good one. I suppose if there are bigger pushes to get everyone into the workforce (not my ideal, but it seems to be going that way), we'll probably see more split accounts.
(btw sorry I'm slow to respond to comments. I do read them! I'm just slow sometimes!)
Interesting! You've most likely seen this piece, but I loved the framing of this concept as "Big Romance" : https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-there-hope-for-marriage
I'd be curious to see the breakdown of finance merging as it relates to religious affiliation (or lack thereof). It was a no-brainer for my husband and I. Even when finances are technically merged on paper, though, I've heard of instances where couples parse out things like giving/tithing/saving based on their own income...and not the household income. Which baffles me, and seems to defeat the overarching purpose, but this is becoming a tangent.....!
Surely the same people who are anti-merging finances in marriage are the same ones who would never consider a full-time-stay-at-home parent. Because in that case, you *have* to think of money as Ours!
I love that piece on big romance.
And yeah, I think the point about stay at home parenting is a good one. I suppose if there are bigger pushes to get everyone into the workforce (not my ideal, but it seems to be going that way), we'll probably see more split accounts.
(btw sorry I'm slow to respond to comments. I do read them! I'm just slow sometimes!)